Life is fundamentally about relationships, to other people, to other living beings, to your profession, to your health, to your sense of purpose.
Over a lifetime, each of us has many wounding experiences. We bring the beliefs and points of view acquired as a result to our relationships. It’s an ongoing story. We are wounded through relationships. We seek healing and love through relationships.
Let go of the past and begin every day at a higher level of love. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
The path of love can hold many rewards when we see it as a developmental route for our spiritual and emotional maturity. Some may achieve this through a lifelong marriage. Others experience the journey differently. This has been true for me.
In 1998, I moved from urban London to leafy Surrey as a newly single mother. I went through an incredibly costly marriage and divorce – emotionally and financially. Afterwards, my friends commented on how the person I used to be had ‘disappeared.’
I moved to Surrey to lick my wounds while living in harmony with nature, honouring my body, my desires and my intuition. I was also determined to change my relationship ‘fortune.’
That resolve began a transforming journey, which in my case has remained one of dedication and fascination, as I realised what a powerful doorway relational experience is to spiritual development.
The healing of relational wounds is one aspect of the work I do with most clients. There is a repeated story among women. As a result, I’ve written a letter to my female readers – from an ‘it takes one to know one point of view, of course ;)!
‘I know you’re an amazing woman. You’re competent and responsible, with passions, ideals and ambitions.
You want to be a whole woman – a mother, a lover, a professional – while also being valued just for being you.
However, despite your ideals, you’ve found yourself in relationships that seemed promising at the start but, at some point you realised…..‘It’s happening again..…’
Maybe the man became increasingly unavailable…. or increasingly controlling…. the longer you were together.
So, you tried to have conversations about the relationship. Relationships take work. Right? So, one of your patterns is to make a lot of effort to sort the problems out.
The effort becomes tiring. The misunderstandings become disheartening. And sometimes, things turn toxic and you end up in a downward spiral…….
Maybe you are wondering if the real problem, as female folklore suggests, is an extreme shortage of emotionally competent men. In which case, you are probably asking whether relationships are worth your effort at all.
You’ve had enough. You know you have a big heart. But, it has been through a lot of bruising and damaging.
Let’s face it. You’ve become guarded and self protective.
The problem is – as deep down you probably know – this not only cuts you off from potential relationships, you are cut off from full expression of yourself as a woman. Where’s the freedom in that?
Take a deep breath.
Now, I’d like you to take a moment to imagine what would it be like to live with a more open heart and less defensiveness when your relational wounds are triggered. Sense the freedom and joy!
If it’s time to restore your energies and evolve beyond your relationship wounds. With more understanding and command of your energy, you have more power in relational situations.’
This has been my route to different experiences. This is your time for a powerful healing for your broken heart. Please contact me to learn more about private coaching if you desire the following outcomes:
As a result of dissolving the defences that keep you safe (but lonely) and associated reactive patterns, you will be able to connect to and follow your heart’s deep longings. Most importantly, you will know how to hold your power in relationship, which has nothing to do with entering into power battles.
The journey is one of increasing freedom and deepening love, irrespective of outer circumstances. What you learn will also benefit both the romantic and non-romantic relationships in your life.